tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25192475.post568893850027648157..comments2024-03-18T19:34:36.812-07:00Comments on Morning Coffee: Anticipatory GriefUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25192475.post-42134136694235006082016-07-21T12:58:57.085-07:002016-07-21T12:58:57.085-07:00Thank you so much for writing this. Praying for yo...Thank you so much for writing this. Praying for you. AthenaAthenahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01717044201738550615noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25192475.post-90760903896259775162016-07-21T11:08:08.136-07:002016-07-21T11:08:08.136-07:00I'm so sorry for your loss, May Rico. So sorr...I'm so sorry for your loss, May Rico. So sorry. <br /><br />Monica...I would love the get together for coffee w/ you sometime, get to know each other etc. would love that. <br /><br />everyone else: truly deeply from the bottom of my heart thank you for your prayers. I can feel them. We are being sustained by them. God is with us in such a close way...but oh, this is hard. <br />Alanahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02169732072381476940noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25192475.post-6326890050441222832016-07-21T08:44:14.583-07:002016-07-21T08:44:14.583-07:00Now that you live close to me, I want to be of hel...Now that you live close to me, I want to be of help. I just don't know what help looks like for you. So you tell me. I can come sit with you. I can watch funny, sad or stupid movies with you. I can stay with Wes while you run errands. I am praying and will pray, but I can also be a local friend and support for you. You can email me mmklepac@gmail.com and we can figure out. monicahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16642730156551533316noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25192475.post-47904948377014719332016-07-21T08:25:44.206-07:002016-07-21T08:25:44.206-07:00I am so glad that you wrote this. I think well-int...I am so glad that you wrote this. I think well-intentioned people misunderstand anticipatory grief, and assume that everything is so much more linear: first you live, then you die, then we grieve you. But when we lose people in long battles with cancer, with ALS, with Alzheimers, in so many different and common ways, we are slowly losing them every day, long before they die. Grief is a path we must walk through, and sometimes the majority of the walk happens before the death. It's not linear at all. This is how it has to be. I continue to pray for you and Wes and the kids, and part of my prayer is that you can walk the walk that has been given to you, taking each day as it comes, without concern for how people think you "should" be doing it. xoxoElissa Bjeletichhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00787020887723100320noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25192475.post-37340014585323729012016-07-21T08:12:31.340-07:002016-07-21T08:12:31.340-07:00Thank you and bless you for speaking truth! I am a...Thank you and bless you for speaking truth! I am a friend of your mom's.<br /> I did not die from my stage 4 breast cancer, but there were days I wanted to and that made things SO hard for my caregivers. As much as I support Cancer walks and runs and believe in those things, MY focus has been more about the caregivers and the need for MORE support, MORE awareness, MORE love.<br />I cannot ease your pain. I cannot fix your husband. I will not try to offer platitudes of positive thinking, etc. But, I will say, God is with you---some days, I'm sure you can't feel it---but I do believe God hurts WITH us and God is the ONLY one who truly understands....so scream and cry and grieve and do what YOU need to do to get through this. I am and will continue to pray for God's help and strength for you and your family.Pat Joneshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14055348774994657275noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25192475.post-69630855791433353782016-07-21T08:05:02.091-07:002016-07-21T08:05:02.091-07:00yes, it is too easy to misunderstand another's...yes, it is too easy to misunderstand another's pain. such suffering, real and constant for you. We are praying. I am glad that Wes is still as well as he is but how very difficult; My friend A. lost her Dad to this and my friend C her Mom. It's very very hard. elizabethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00962587884124992942noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25192475.post-35828174730055335622016-07-21T07:48:16.513-07:002016-07-21T07:48:16.513-07:00My mother died from GBM a few weeks ago, six month...My mother died from GBM a few weeks ago, six months after her diagnosis. Thank you for giving words to a lot of what I was feeling. I had a wonderful support system, at home and at work, and she had amazing care from hospice and the assisted living facility where she spent the last 4 months of her life. But I still experienced a lot of what you're talking about, and I realized how much of our social interactions with others in time of grief is based on "scripts" built for everyone except the person experiencing the loss. I felt often like it was my responsibility to give the accepted response and not deviate from the script when people offered sympathy or asked how I was doing, because it would have been rude not to. I was the one who needed support, but it was my social responsibility to ensure those around me could be comfortable in the presence of my grief. Surreal.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10427078764871203866noreply@blogger.com